In my 20 years of experience in software development I have seen far too many experiencing impostorism, especially programmers. First of all to solve anything with understanding we have to stop looking at fixing the symptoms alone and reach out to the root cause. We all have to be comfortable with the truth and believe we are born to shine as bright as a star.
Clearly impostorism is a huge problem faced by today’s youth. It prevents us from solving the problems that we are facing as a community. May it be climate change, water shortages, drug abuse, cure for diseases or poverty, impostorism is the main reason for our failure in reaching a solution or giving up too soon.
With impostorism we believe that we are not qualified enough or we do not have the abilities to solve our problems. So how do we deal with impostorism? First of all, take a good look at reality, are our imaginations deceiving us? Do we believe people who have achieved good things are inherently more talented than us and never failed? Were they somehow the favoured ones?
Do we believe we are not qualified enough to build our own dreams or contribute to the project in any meaningful way? Can we handle compliments? Or do we think we always fall short of that standard, because we don’t really desire it? Do we think no matter how hard we try, we will never be smart enough or superior enough to accomplish our dreams or reach to the heights of people we respect?
Such limiting beliefs are the root cause of impostorism. Truth be told, anyone who has ever achieved anything in life, only accomplished it with hard work, while enduring countless failures with an unbreakable patience. It’s thought provoking that we never notice and get inspired by those facts.
When we experience impostorism, we tend to have a fixed and firm mindset. We believe talents and skills are traits that we are born with, some are talented and others are not. This is a false belief. Countless scientific studies and lessons from history have proved that we have the capability to learn and acquire as many new skills and talents as we want in our lifetime.
Impostorism also thrives when we compare ourselves to others, when we try to be somebody else. This results in us focusing on unrealistic results rather than learning and growing. Stop worrying about how other people might think. In reality everybody is afraid of how others might think of them – hence logically nobody can pay enough attention to think about others except for themselves.
Our fears of failure or looking bad with a fixed mindset is stopping us from growing. First of all don’t judge against it. Just be aware of the fact that we can learn and grow without limits if we wanted to. Being aware of this is the first step in achieving amazing things. Imagination without consequences and enjoying whatever we are doing is the only way to get anything done.
So strive endlessly, be open to challenges, learn from mistakes and accept constructive criticism from others to grow. This is the way to achieve great things in life. Nobody is born as a superman with superpowers or learns magical powers by eating a banana.
We have to consciously practice a growth mindset. Pay attention when we are operating with a fixed attitude. Be aware of soliloquies, such as “I can’t do it”, “I better stick to safety”, and “I am a coward”.
Catch yourself in your self-talk, change and challenge those, “I can’t do it yet, but I can learn how to”, “This is really challenging, but I’m excited to see what I can do to learn new things”, “If I don’t have it yet, I will seek help and find out.”
Practice to convince yourself and you will be happy, even surprised at how it changes you. More importantly this will stop comparing and stereotyping. Remember – When people achieve truly miraculous things, they are driven by curiosity, enthusiasm and a desire to learn and grow rather than a desire to succeed in what they are doing.
You are one of those people who will do miraculous things if you allow yourself to do so. Don’t stop following your curiosity and passion for your fear of an imaginary reality or your inner dark workings. You don’t have to be a slave to impostorism, the world will shine because it needs your unique light.
With your unique personality and preferences do learn and grow. You are a talented individual at the same time akin to others. So “know thyself” deeply, your preferences and personality traits to start exploring and enjoying life with curiosity. With the help of Artificial Intelligence, Awesome Clue can help you to highlight some of your personality traits. Try it at : clue.utotoai.com
Yusuf Abdulla Shunan
CEO / UtotoAI, Inc